Becky asks “whats the best way to tell my boyfriend about an unplanned pregnancy”?
Well, first, congratulations Becky! Even unplanned pregnancy can be exciting… or just plain terrifying! Let’s talk about some tips of how you can share the news with your boyfriend.
Nothing happens instantly in pregnancy, so you have some time. You won’t start to show until around 12 weeks and until then he won’t be able to tell you’re pregnant. Look for a good time to tell him when you two can have some alone time to talk about it once you break the news.
If he is the type of boyfriend that is looking forward to being a dad, he is going to be happy but surprised. Chances are you didn’t ask for advice if you thought he would be happy though.
For everyone else, hold his hand, look him in the eye and tell him.
Sometimes a small lie helps. For example, even if you’ve already tested positive you might tell him you think you are pregnant and then ask him to be there as you test. That way you “find out” together when you do the test.
Don’t be surprised if he is upset at first. You’ve had some time to adjust to the news but its brand new to him. Its going to be days before he has fully processed it.
Some guys will ask you to have an abortion as soon as you tell them. If you want to abort, thats fine. But if you don’t, just wait. He may well change his mind once he has thought about it for a while.
There really isn’t a wrong way to tell him as long as its in private and you two have time to talk once he is told. Don’t tell him infront of others or when one of you needs to be someplace and won’t have time to discuss it.
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