Telling your boyfriend that you’re pregnant is never easy when you weren’t planning to have a baby. In fact, some girls never tell.
Typically boyfriends aren’t that good at figuring out when we should have our period. So they won’t really notice if we miss our period. But we sure will. And then the panic begins!
Sometimes the easiest way to share the news is to have him there when you use a pregnancy test. Try telling him that your period is late and your worried. Its best if you already have the test with you. Explain how a test works and ask if he is willing to be with you while you test. If he is… test and see!
If you already know for sure, the best is to just sit him down and tell him. The sooner the better. That way you two can decide on options for the pregnancy and start making sure to take good care of your health.
A lot of boyfriends will bring up abortion when they first find out. They don’t mean to hurt you by asking about it. The shock of an unplanned pregnancy often makes them think about how to go “back to normal” before you were pregnant. Many of the guys who mention abortion would actually prefer to keep the baby.
Communication is important. Lots of patients end up having an abortion and realizing only after that both actually wanted to keep the baby – but thought they were doing what the other wanted.
Talk about what would happen if you stay pregnant and deliver. Talk about if you are willing to have an abortion. And talk about how to tell your parents too.
Your boyfriend is often the person in the world you trust most. You trusted him enough that you got pregnant by him. So trust him now about being pregnant and about making a plan for what is next.
If you just can’t face telling him yet, get in touch with us and talk to someone from the site so you don’t feel totally alone.
