Danielle’s IUD Insertion

Danielle had an IUD inserted to prevent pregnancy. She shares her story below. If you have a story to share, or questions to ask, get in touch with us!

Hi! I’m Danielle. And I have an IUD. And it is still super weird to say that. Its inside me right now and I guess how it got there is the story I’m here to share. I’m pretty shy about this stuff so I asked them not to post my last name. But Danielle is my first name because I think its important that I’m honest. But if you know a Danielle that just got an IUD that for sure isn’t me! I hope. You better not be reading this mom!

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years now. He is amazing. But I’m also shy. So we’ve done some stuff but we hadn’t had sex. Not full out real sex. Just touching. I was ready a while back to try but I wasn’t on birth control. And he didn’t want to take the risk of just condoms. I wasn’t really ready for that risk either. So we kept waiting.

This is the tough part, but I’ve never even had a pelvic exam. At least not until now. I’m 22. And I got really lucky until now. It never had to happen to me. All my friends had pelvic exams as teens. And I kept expecting I’d need to also but I just kinda slipped through the cracks. I was happy about that at first. But as time has gone on it kinda sucks. Once everyone else had one I felt even more shy about having mine. Shy to the point of willing to skip sex because I wasn’t on birth control because I hadn’t had a pelvic exam.

My boyfriend is the one that decided he needed to get me help. He found the Youtube channel that goes along with this website. He realized I’m not the only nervous girl out there and that there are options for girls like me. He got in touch with Jen from Stirrupz and asked for some advice. She gave him some tips on how to talk to me about the being shy and what needed to happen.

He slowly brought it up to me. And he used a lot of the advice Jen gave him to talk about how it was time for me to be like all my friends who had already had the exam. He talked to me about birth control. Jen made sure he knew the options. I thought he had suddenly become an expert at it all – but then I found out he had a lot of cheat notes lol.

One of the most important things I found out is that girls who have a debilitating fear of a pelvic exam have options. We can be sedated or even put right to sleep. I knew that was going to help me. My boyfriend encouraged me and I called my doctor to talk about it.

The nurse I talked to said that they usually only need to sedate teens but that if I was sure I needed that help they would do it for me too. She made me an appointment on a sedation day – the day they do a batch of girls who need that kind of help. I also asked about birth control and about having an IUD. She said it could be inserted at the same time.

And I freaked out. A Lot. I was to be put to sleep on July 27th.

My boyfriend was pretty worried I would be so upset I would back out. So he went back to Jen for help. She agreed to work with me online to get me more comfy. She even offered to use hypnosis to help me calm down and go through with my appointment.

I took her up on that. I chatted with her for a couple weeks and she hypnotized me as well.

I don’t remember too much about the hypnosis really. I was comfy but its fuzzy. I know that after I was still scared of my appointment but I knew that I would go and get through it. I had the confidence to know I wasn’t going to back out.

The night before my appointment I wasn’t allowed to eat or drink after 9PM. I had a bit of water right before the deadline then I felt weird knowing I couldn’t have more. I peed before I went to bed.

It was a bit tough to go to sleep. I was nervous about the next day. But I did sleep and pretty soon it was morning. I didn’t pee in the morning. I really didn’t have to go because I hadn’t been drinking anything and I knew I had to give a sample when I got to the clinic.

I had a shower and got dressed. I wore comfy stuff so it would be easy to change. A tshirt and leggings, bra and panties. My boyfriend drove me to the clinic and took me inside. He waited with me in the waiting room. On the way there I kept feeling like I wanted to change my mind but every time I felt that I got calm and remembered it was ok. I know that was the hypnosis helping me.

I had to fill out forms and sign some things that said I agreed to be put to sleep and have a pelvic exam and have an IUD. It felt super weird to sign them. I didn’t want to sign either but I felt that same calmness and did it anyway.

There were lots of moms with teens there. I was the oldest girl in the waiting room. When the moms came they had to sign the forms for their teens. And each teen sat there looking horrified that mom was just signing it to have them put to sleep.

Some of the teens were given a pill to relax them and some weren’t. They offered to give me the pill too and I refused it. I’m a big nerd and I wanted to be awake enough to know what was happening when they put me to sleep.

The thing about the teens is that the ones who took the pill were getting sleepy right in the waiting room with their moms. They were in their own clothes and didn’t have to do anything except sit in a chair as the pill made them relax.

I on the other hand was super nervous wondering when I would be called in. I talked to the girl sitting beside me. She’s 14 and was about to have her first ever pelvic exam. I was a bit jealous. Mom should have made me when I was that age and I wouldn’t be nearly so nervous now.

I went first to break the ice. I told her I was going to be gassed and checked. Her eyes got big and she said “I’m getting gassed too”. After that we were friends. We talked for maybe fifteen minutes. I told her about how I felt these weird butterflies in my tummy and she said she felt them in hers too. All too soon the nurse came to get her and her mom and took them away.

I watched her going feeling super strange knowing that she was about to get put to sleep. And then I would get put to sleep too.

About 20 minutes later the nurse came for me. I went with her. I had to get changed. Everything came off. Everything. Even my panties. It all went into a bag along with my cell phone. You aren’t allowed to have it when you are back there.

Once I was in the gown and had peed for the nurse I went into a room with other girls to wait. Their moms were with them. Moms were dressed. Daughters were in gowns. I was in a gown.

I sat nervous and kept my legs closed tight. There were a couple teens who hadn’t had the pill. They sat the same way beside their mom. A couple girls had taken the pill. They were totally different. They were almost all the was asleep just leaning on their mom. Their legs were wide open and they didn’t care. They didn’t even really know what was going on.

My friend wasn’t in the room. My friend wasn’t there. I realize they had already taken her to the room where they do it. And she was probably asleep in the stirrups while I waited. That felt like a lot more butterflies to know it had already happened to her.

I was thinking about that a lot and trying to act all normal. Then the nurse came to get me. And I felt so much panic. I didn’t want to be next. I didn’t want to go. And then the calmness of the hypnosis came back and I just followed her.

When I got to the room there were two doctors. The one to do my exam and IUD and the one to put me to sleep. And there were stirrups. For the first time in my life there were stirrups that were waiting for me to be in them. And I didn’t want to. I was ready to run. And the nurse said to sit down between them. And I did.

She got me to lay back and helped put my feet in. She helped me wiggle down so I was in the right spot. And she strapped my feet in. Like actual straps so I couldn’t get out. She even told me to try pulling on my feet to make sure they were tight enough. I did. My feet were stuck. And the butterflies were stronger.

They were really nice. And I’m a big nerd. So I asked all sorts of stuff. They let me see the IUD that was going to be inside me. I asked the doctor who was going to make me sleep how it worked. Once he realized I was interested in the equipment he showed me all about it and totally explained everything.

I had asked when I made the appointment if I could have my boyfriend with when I went to sleep so I wasn’t so scared. They had said if I really needed him I could.

The nurse said I was doing really good and I could just have my nap without needing my boyfriend.

No. No. No. No.

I wanted him. I said I needed him. She said I would be fine. But I was positive I needed him. I was nice but I said I had to have him. She said if I was really sure she would go get him.

So I lay there with my hands on my tummy and my feet strapped into the stirrups and waited. We talked some more about how the machine was going to put me to sleep. And then my boyfriend came. I was sooo happy to see him. Even though I knew it meant it was time to go to sleep.

He held my one hand and told me everything was ok. They asked if I was ready for my nap and I nodded yes.

The sleep doctor turned on the oxygen in the mask and then he handed it to me. He said he knew I was curious so I could put it on myself. So I did. I put on my own mask. He helped me hold it and let me breath oxygen for a couple breaths to get used to the mask.

He said it was time for the nitrous oxide. He had explained before that it would smell sweet and make me relaxed for the sleep gas. It did smell sweet and I started to feel tingly and calm.

The nurse told my boyfriend to hold my hand tight. And she held my other hand. She took it away from the mask. And the sleep doctor said I was going to start to smell the strong stuff now.

I realize they were holding my hands on purpose so that I couldn’t try to stop from going to sleep. But it was ok, I was feeling calm and I had to have my nap.

I smelled the strong gas. I took a few breaths and I seemed fine. And then I felt sleepy. Really really sleepy. I looked at my boyfriend and he was just smiling at me. The sleep doctor said to have nice dreams. And all I wanted to do was close my eyes. I don’t even remember closing them.

The next thing I knew I was in the recovery room and my boyfriend was holding me and telling me everything was ok. A moment later I was in the car on the way home. And then I was on the sofa at his house with a blanket going to bed. I woke up once and then I slept again. I was asleep about four hours after I got home.

Then I felt a lot better.

So my IUD is inside me now and that is how it got there. And that is probably how I should stop my story. You’ll be fine too. But I’m a nerd. So there are some other things that I want to tell you incase you do this too. Things you should know that id I didn’t have Jen to help me I wouldn’t have known ahead. You should know them ahead too.

If you don’t want to know stop reading now.

So…I was wet. Like really wet and a lot. Whenever I thought about being put to sleep I would feel nervous and shy and I’d feel wet too. And I thought I was a freak of nature. Jen said I wasn’t. That lots of girls feel that. Like… most girls feel that. Knowing that made it easier.

So I want you to know its ok to be wet too. You aren’t a freak. I got wet when I made the appointment and when I thought about how it was getting closer.

I was wet the night before knowing it was in the morning. I was wet on the way to the clinic.

I got a lot more wet once I was in the waiting room and knew I couldn’t leave without it being done to me. Jen had warned me ahead to expect that. But I was still shifting in my chair feeling weird about being wet.

When I looked around the waiting room the teens that were awake were shifting in their chairs too. I’m sure they were also feeling it. The ones who were sleepy were just still. They either didn’t feel wet or just didn’t care anymore.

When I was in the room with the gown on, still wet. A lot of wet. Moms were even shifting in their chair there. Jen said that moms feel it too sometimes in those situations. So if you’re a mom I guess its also normal.

The wettest for me was when I couldn’t close my legs in the stirrups. They did that to me right away. And they left me like that while they got ready. And I was soaked. I was so shy because I knew the doctor would be able to tell when she did her stuff inside me.

I cared about being wet and was shy about it until I felt tingly from the first gas. After that I didn’t care and I wasn’t shy.

So that is enough about me being wet. But there is one other thing I think you should know.

I want a baby. Like bad. I want a baby really really bad.

I know its not the right time for me to have one yet. I want to finish college first and so does my boyfriend. My head know that. But my heart wants a baby right now.

My boyfriend and I are going to get married. I’m going to have his baby. I’m going to have three of them. But I’m not going to have one right now. But I want one. Right. Now.

Jen told me how normal that is too. And to just be ok with it. She said once the IUD is inside I can even have sex with the hope of getting pregnant. I won’t get pregnant. But I can try and I want to try.

A few days before my IUD was put inside me I went shopping with my boyfriend. We went to the baby section. We picked out a cute yellow sleeper. Its for our baby. We bought it and I have it now. I keep it in my drawer. Its the first thing we got for our baby that I can’t have right now.

Having the sleeper is amazing. When I’m really needy for a baby I hold it and just feel so good. I know I will put his baby into the sleeper once I can have it.

If you want a baby bad, get a sleeper. Its a trick Jen showed me.

Ok and one more thing then I really need to stop. If you haven’t had a pelvic exam and you aren’t a kid anymore get Jen to hypnotize you. Its amazing and it works.

If you’re a mom that has a kid, make her get a pelvic exam. The sooner she has it the less worried she will be. I got more worried the longer I waited. Jen says she can use hypnosis to help moms and their kids too but I never tried that part.

And that’s it for me. Nerdy IUD girl out. Oh and they made me pick a photo to put with this. That isn’t me. But you knew that because you’re smart like I am.

Obviously Danielle was hypnotized and feels it helped. If you want to be hypnotized too, get in touch. If you are over 18 you can arrange that yourself. If you are under 18 one of your parents needs to give permission first. Either way, it can help you too. Jen and David both do hypnosis so you can pick male or female for your hypnotist. David says it actually works better with him, but what else would he say? As for cost Jen says it usually needs a couple sessions. You’re looking at about $200 in total no matter which one of them you pick.