There are three separate things to consider when you think about having sex. Your body, emotions and religion all play a distinct role in when its time.
First, before a girl has sex she needs to be physically developed enough for intercourse. As girls go through puberty their bodies change and grow. That growth leaves us able to have sex. Our pelvis is normally large enough by the age of 12 or 13. For the most part we also have no interest in sex until our bodies have developed enough for our hormones to reach adult levels. By that time our bodies are physically ready.
The second consideration is emotional. For us, sex is a very emotional process. They boy will become part of our bodies. That is a very personal experience and one that should wait until we are ready for it. It has been said if you can’t talk about sex with a boy without laughing you aren’t ready to try it. Its great advice!
You will notice sex turns from something funny and weird to something you wonder about and want to try. At that point, you are emotionally ready for intercourse.
The last big consideration is spiritual. It’s perfectly fine to wait until marriage for sex. Lots do wait and lots chose to try it as teens. Whatever you chose, you’ve made the right choice for you. As long as you decide and aren’t being pushed into the choice, it’s the right answer.
Once you do feel ready to try sex, you will be nervous but excited. Go slow and find someone who will take their time to help you feel special. It is worth spending a little extra time to find the right guy to show you how it feels.
You should also make some pre-sex decisions about birth control options and what to do if you have an accident.
